Relationship and Love.

We all have one thing with us, which has a multi-shade. It is that kind of a thing, which increases when you give it to others. Sometimes or many of the times we get back that one thing in return. And the beauty is that both will be benefited. But the sad reality is that we all are aware that we are having that one thing but are not ready to share it with others. Maybe because many of us are bothered by the returns. Not to drag the topic, that one thing is “LOVE”.

Love is an important and special essence of life. It is just like salt in our food. Every human with rightly functioning tongue demands for it, right? Even the patients are advised to reduce the consumption of the salt but not to stop. Sometimes even the animals crave it. Similarly, if you are having a heart located at the right place in your body, rightly functioning, then no doubt I guarantee you, you have and need “LOVE”. Love is art. Love is a science. Love is an action. Love is an act. Love is a drama. Love is a journey. Love is a process. Love is a beautiful lie. Love is the truth. Love is lust. Love is a thought. Complicated isn't? it depends, right? I can’t and should not define love as you do. Everyone has their own way of expressing it, defining it and executing it. We all love our mom and dad, brother and sister, teachers and friends. True, but not all the time. Not 24/7 right? There will be fluctuation in the love graph. It should be and that is what life is, because “Ups and downs in life are very important to us to keep us going because a straight line even in an ECG means we are not alive.” says Ratan Tata. At the end of the day, before you go to your bed make sure, you solve all your conflicts with others and love them as you did before. Because life is short so just for heaven's sake make it sweet.

Each individual has many relationships with many other individuals. Say, for example, Michelle Obama is a beautiful daughter to her mom and dad. A caring mother to her daughters and a loving wife to ex-President Mr Barack Obama. These relationships are God gifted. These relationships die just like fishes dying without water when it is not nourished with the magical element called “LOVE”. Relationships must be nourished from time to time with the right amount of love. According to me, love is the fuel for the relationships. When we talk about relationships, we can see two kinds of relationships. Say a good relationship and a bad relationship. There is another type called a Neutral relationship. A Neutral relationship is that of no help or support, either of the two opposing sides. Let’s not talk about it as of now. We all expect our relationship with our loved ones to be great. Don’t we? To have a good relationship, there are a few key factors which we all need to adopt. First and the foremost one is “LOYALTY”. The second one is dependent on the first one i.e, “TRUST”. The third one is “COMMUNICATION AND MUTUAL RESPECT”. When you analyse the reason for a bad relationship, you will come up knowing “LACK OF COMMUNICATION” is the main reason. But for this loyalty and trust factors contribute a lot. Above loyalty and trust, communication and mutual respect, one should have “LOVE”. Because if you love someone you automatically start being loyal to that person. If you are loyal, it is quite obvious that you gain his/her trust. “Trust is built in very small moments in which one person turns towards their partner when they are in need. When our partner responds positively by “being there” for us, that builds trust.” says John Gottman.

At the end of the day, Love is the glue which keeps a relationship together - strong and solid.

Thank you.

Love and be loved.

Yours Lovingly,

Jogi B Mahesh